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BBBC Post – Day 3 – Relating to Relationships

Posted on: June 16, 2010

Me again here, and I’m actually sticking with this so far!!! :O Today’s topic for the challenge is relationships, and here’s the question:

SL Bloggers – How hard do you think it is to find a relationship in SL? If you have an SL relationship, have you met in the physical world? Would you meet them? Do you think it would change your SL relationship if you met?

RL Bloggers – Would you start a relationship with someone you met online? Would you have a problem telling people that’s where you met? Do you think it’s easier to meet someone online rather than at work or at a club?

Well let’s see, I have had several relationships in SL and not all of them were by the hour for the $L either! πŸ˜‰ LOL Seriously though, I have never had a hard time “finding” a relationship in SL. As a matter of fact most of them found me! Starting a relationship in SL has been much easier for me than starting one in FL. I think that’s partly because I live in a rural isolated community and I have a full set of teeth and a college education…this makes me so far out of the norm here it’s not even funny!! Not to mention that the gene pool here has maybe just a little too much or maybe not enough chlorine in it to keep it viable! πŸ˜› So even if there were any eligible suitors, I kinda prefer that my men walk upright, y’know??

But in SL that is all different. People I meet here are creative, intelligent, funny and a pleasure to be around. Not to mention I think my avatar is one pretty hot looking number y’know?? πŸ˜‰ I think this makes it easier for me to open up and be myself and not feel like I’m being judged because of my body type or looks. I’m far less self conscious in SL that is for sure…. I’m also far more of an exhibitionist too! LOL So yes finding a relationship in SL is pretty easy. Now finding a GOOD one that lasts for awhile….that’s a whole other subject!! LOL

As for meeting them in the physical world sure! I love meeting my SL/Plurk friends in the flesh!! It’s always so exciting and adds a wonderful new dimension to the relationship (be it a friendship or a romantic partner). I have met a few of my SL “lovers”, shall we call them, in FL too. It usually turned out to be fun, but most of them it just didn’t seem as fulfilling in FL as it did in SL. I don’t really know why, maybe it’s because my bed was missing the right pose balls? I’m not really sure. But, those relationships are now in the past and seem to be complete and have run their course.

Now there is the present, and in the present I am in a wonderful relationship with another SL avatar who I did meet in FL!! In fact I spent most of the month of January with him in FL getting to know him while exploring his world and his country. We had so much fun and liked it so much that we are now in the process of making it permanent!! Much to the surprise of us both!! Neither of us thought we would have a FL relationship, and we both thought that all of our “adventures” would be purely in SL, but then SURPRISE!!! LOL Here we go embarking on the greatest adventure of them all!! So with any luck, by next month I will be plurking and logging in from the other side of the world! Instead of being on SLT I will have to get used to now doing the math as I will be on SLT +9!! ROFL Oh well, i guess this is why there are watches.

As for changing our SL relationship, the answer is yes. Our meeting in FL has forever changed both of our Second Lives. For me it meant giving up my SL “career” and really committing to a single person while trying to curb my enthusiastic flirty nature. πŸ˜‰ Knowing now that any little word play that I engage in is purely that…word play. There will be no secret midnight rendezvous anymore. While my avatar in SL was into having multiple partners and experiences, I must admit that in FL I am much more reserved and I love being in a devoted and committed monogamous relationship. As for him, well that is his blog to write! πŸ˜‰ (Love you sweetie!)

When it comes to telling our friends and family where we met, I have no problem saying that we met online. I usually just say that we met in Plurk because I do keep my SL world very far away from my family and from most (but not all) of my friends as well. Trying to tell your dad that you’re a virtual escort/ pole dancer stripper who became a virtual mall owner and business person is not something that I think would go over too well if you know what I mean. πŸ˜‰ LOL So for the most part we leave SL in SL and FL in FL and I met my loving Yak online in a “social chat environment”! And I am sooooo very grateful that I did!

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!!! Thanks for listening! See you on the grid!!! MUWAH!!!

Xxxxses N Hugz!



11 Responses to "BBBC Post – Day 3 – Relating to Relationships"

How cool! I love hearing about relationships that ended in FL on a positive note. Those kind of relationships are very unpredictable but always a surprise when they turn out to be great πŸ™‚ I added you to my blog list, feel free to do the same if you like.

Thank you very much. I do love hearing feedback as I’m still new to this. (added you to the Blogroll too) πŸ˜‰

Hi Star, just been reading your blog and wanted to say hi, I’m new to the sl blogging world to. I enjoyed reading your posts about relationships, and its great that you found someone special on sl πŸ™‚

Thank you very much for your support! Good luck to you too on your blogging! If you’d like to do a link swap, please let me know. Hugz!

sure that would be great, I added you to my blogroll, oh and I joined plurk,so thanks for posting about it. I had no idea what a plurk was lol hugz back πŸ™‚

I think you people are nuts! And I love you for that! I doubt that I would ever have the courage to leave my life and career and move on the other side of the world for someone… or with someone. Fortunately, I only had to change neighborhood to move in with my SO, and that was an incredibly difficult adventure for me at the time :D. I wish you a great life together, no matter the time zone πŸ™‚

Yeah we probably are a little bit nuts, but who isn’t in this day and age!! LOL Life is short and fleeting and if you have a chance to find happiness in it, then you must do what you can to pursue that. If that means crossing the ocean to live on the other side of the world then “pack my bags baby, cause i’m a goin’!!!” πŸ˜€ Thanks for the well wishes. πŸ˜€

I’m so happy for you, Star! I remember when I first got to know you on Plurk and you were having so many troubles with money and so on… you didn’t seem happy inside even though you always tried to be cheerful and you joked and flirted a lot. But ever since you and Yak found each other, you seem so so so happy despite the challenges of looking for a place in (Europe) and needing to make such a big move! I’m so glad it worked out for you guys and I hope you have a wonderful adventure together for the rest of your lives! *hugs*

Aaaaawwwww Lady Q you are making me blush here (blush) Thank you so much for your kind words. And I do soooo appreciate all the support you have given me over the years my dear friend! Big Hugz N Xxxxses too!!! MUWAH
(BTW~ you made Yak blush a bit too, but don’t tell him i told you) πŸ˜‰ *giggles*

Congratulations, Star! It’s not everyday that someone is able to transcend the virtual world of SL and successfully move to FL. Relationships are tough everywhere, and even though they are easier in SL, they can be complex and intricate. Behind every avatar there is a real person with feelings who has wants and needs and what happens in SL usually bleeds over into FL. I’m glad to have you in my plurk line and wish much success in your move to distant lands and adventures.

I’ve added your blog to my blog roll and you can add me as well if you wish.

Thank you so much Salvatore for you support and comments!! You totally rock my timeline too!!! I look forward to hearing more from you as well.

Also, I did add you to the blog roll. Please let me know if I got the link right! (I’m still such a newb at this.) LOL



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